Recent studies
in increasing shyness reported in adults has led to the theory that the way we increasingly technological life makes us more timid than ever.
The scientists tell us that about 1 in 5 may be too shy to “hot-wired.” It is part of their personality. But all that 48-60% of the population, depending on which study you use, consider that they are or have been timid. This is a significant increase in just the past 20 years. What has changed? Our lifestyles. Children no longer go out and play in the street with his friends. They sit in the house playing on their computer or Xbox. They often have to interact with their peers in the schoolyard for a short time during the day. You see very few parents who work long hours to maintain their lifestyle. Socializing is a learned behavior. We always practice with others. There are so many rules that must be learned. But children do not get much practice is no longer in it. And they are more exhibitors and more signs of shyness and social phobia. The shy children shy adults.
What does this mean for employees? . This means that those who follow them, their employees, business partners, their “tribes’-are less able to interact easily with others, face to face, that is, you’re always on the interaction of experts technological.
E-mail, cell phones, text messaging, twittering and other social media
But when you work as a team, face to face, try the problems.
On ten people sitting around a conference table on a given day, at least one of them considers his life affected by shyness.
And this is not necessarily the guy sitting in a quiet the corner scribbling. It can be quite loud-mouth, always has something to say, even if it is not relevant.
you see this guy has learned to hide his shyness by acting in a way. It works for him. And because he does not do much one on one with people, it usually gets in these behaviors. Even if they do any other drive to despair.
Hey, can you put in up with the “idiots” in the group for a short time you can not? If he had to do for a long time, you will probably find a way to change behavior. He comments enough to know that People do not like his mask. And it would not change it.
This is because the discharge is one of our greatest fears we have as human beings. Unconsciously we equate the acceptance for survival. rejecting any form of rejection threatens the survival.
So big mouth
not people have noticed to be avoided, because it rarely comes into contact with them. He gets in the way it is.
What does this mean for the leader? This means that the shy man in his “clan” negative effects of face-to-face processes. This reduces the power of the synergy that is possible within the group. This means less energy. And that goes for any manager in the bottom line.
Studies have shown that talking leads to the behavior of highly productive coffee. Rather than divert attention from daily activity that allows relevant information informally between people is to be spent. are generated organically.
But the shy person does not do well, in informal meetings. There are very few of benefits from the situation for themselves or their families. And as a labor force increasingly is unable to “play nice together” you enter the fewer synergies happen naturally. “/ P> And outside of work, life at home shy guy in relative isolation. This leads to more stress and disease has increased, which in turn again lead to increased absenteeism, reducing productivity. The bottom line.
What can I do for a guide to overcoming shyness in his tribe
Identify those at risk – both overt and covert shy find mentors for them, make friends and that. they can support, as they learn more effective ways to interact. These mentors or coaches must “People People widgets sensitive and caring.
Nothing is more productive than against assign a mentor insensitive lack of empathy for the condition, a shy person. Shy people, if extroverted or introverted, overly sensitive to the reactions of others. They will “get” fairly quickly that there is something wrong with them, and slide further into their shell. As a manager, it is also important to identify situations in which you timidly. Situations you choose to avoid because they make you uncomfortable. They are not as productive as possible when inhibited by timidity. were surprisingly many great world leaders shy people like Abraham Lincoln, Theodore Roosevelt, Thomas Jefferson and Ulysses S. Grant And just to stay true to my roots feminist Clara Barton (founder of the Red Cross) and Eleanor Roosevelt. Think about how people interact more naturally can get to your workplace, and establish incentives for employees outside working hours. Not only do your “clan”, a service, you help your organization work more efficiently.